We all have different faces. There’s the face you keep only to yourself. You have a special face for your loved ones. There’s is your working face, worried face, smiley face, crying face. Sometimes you put the wrong face on. Ever happened to you? Happened to me on more than one occasion. I couldn’t cope with my personal life, and I came to work wearing my sad face. That day everything went wrong because I let my emotions take control over me. My performance was so bad, and I was ashamed of myself. I was stressed out about everything, I couldn’t sleep, and the next wasn’t any better. It is hard to leave your emotions and personal problems outside of the office but certainly not possible. Here, I would like to share some of my best practices on how to deal with stress, emotions, and in general, how to wear that proper face to work.
- Before you open the door to your office, count to 10. Take deep breathes. Focus on your daily tasks. Don’t think about him/her, your bank account balance being on its knees… Don’t. Try to motivate yourself. Say “it’s only 8 long hours, and then I’ll go home. I CAN DO IT.”
While at work, organize your day. Think what is the most important thing you need to do? Eat that nasty frog first… and reward yourself! Either eat sweets, listen to music for 5 minutes, or have a chat with a colleague. These little things might slightly improve your mood! (credit: Noisli)
- And since we are talking about organizing your day – stick to your usual routine. In my case, I spent 2 hours in the morning, and 2 hours in the late afternoon on screening the candidates (either their CVs or via phone). I also blocked my calendar to work on my personal development, i.e. catching up with latest news related to pharma and UK. On top of that, I’m trying to be active on Linkedin. I always have spare time in case of emergencies. If a nasty frog comes way, I’m ready!
It is important that even if you are feeling down, your routine should stay the same. Your current mood isn’t an excuse!
- Listen to inspiring music! I personally like to listen movie soundtracks. Whenever my mood is down, and I have to go over 100s of CVs, I like to play Transformers’ soundtrack. Occasionally, I imagine that I’m a superhero, and the fate of the world depend on me and these CVs!
- When stressed out… listen to music! This time my go to choice are piano covers. Soothing music is what you need to calm your nerves.
- Received a feedback request from a candidate? Feeling like responding “Don’t have any, FU”? Yeah… I’ve been there. Basically, as a rule, you do not want to reply to an email when you are mad. Trust me, you will regret it. Remember that a candidate is your external client , and you do want to treat him nicely. Take a short walk around the office, talk to someone, and calm down. Only then you can reply.
- Not feeling like talking with your colleagues? It’s fine, happened to me too. Just let them know that you would rather be left alone today. After all, we are only humans.
- Too late for that? A colleague pissed you off? Once you are back to your normal self just apologize. I had to apologize for a being a total b*tch couple of times during our weekly team meetings. Again, we are only humans. We are not perfect. We make mistakes.
- A candidate upsets you on the phone? Yup, happened to me too. You will deal with loads of different people. Scientific people may come across as so full of themselves. Sales people may sound like complete douchebags. Others will annoy you with their answers… Hey, it’s cool. Don’t reject people just because you have a bad mood, and they made it even worse. Review their profiles and your notes once again when you feel better.
- Whatever happened… Trust me “In the end, it doesn’t even matter”. Each and every experience will make you stronger – keep that in mind. The storm in your life will pass. Your life is too precious and too short to worry about everything. You have to learn to let go. Don’t dwell on something you have no control over.
- Last but not least… Try to stay positive. My former colleague had a saying that one day ladybirds will come to you. At first, I thought the saying to make no sense. Then the ladybirds came to me, and guess what happened next? Positive things.